(And no, this has nothing to do with the hilarious TV sitcom…)
There is a way to quickly know BOTH - what you CAN and MUST do with a specific man that will work WITH HIM to draw him closer and make your relationship be the best it can be…
And what you have to accept about your connection (or DISCONNECTION) to him that can’t be changed (and isn’t your imagination).
Now, sometimes your romantic troubles aren’t because of that astrological “grace” - the “you can’t-do-anything-about-it” stuff.
Sometimes there’s something going on in your love life that’s… well… err… how should I say it?
ALL YOUR FAULT!
I’m sorry - that was harsh… Let’s call it the “in your control” stuff.
The “will” side of love.
And finding this out is great news, too, because this is the stuff you CAN change.
By switching from doing what doesn’t work to what does, you’ll be amazed to find things can improve dramatically with a man almost overnight.
Most women think they know what they’re doing when it comes to men.
They think they’ve got men all figured out.
But I gotta tell you - I’ve been amazed to find that it’s quite the opposite.
Virtually every woman I’ve ever worked with, no matter how lovely, successful, educated, or otherwise productive, has NO idea what to DO when it comes to succeeding with men.
So much of what she’s DOING isn’t working.
So much of the time in my private sessions, I put the chart aside and give relationship coaching that has nothing to do with astrology.
I cover things like how to talk to men in a way that makes them WANT to listen, and actually respond well.
I talk at length about how to understand the fundamental difference between the way men and women communicate - it’s not just my big, fat opinion (though I’m full of those!).
It’s agreed upon by sociologists, linguists, psychologists, and anthropologists the world over.
So perhaps you’ve heard of it before.
Knowing this ONE idea can forever change all of your interactions with every man in your life - and forever eliminate the need for conflict.
For real.
What is it?
In a nutshell, women want to CONNECT, and men want to COMPETE.
So, the minute you make them wrong, have the better idea, or give them an “innocent suggestion” when they haven’t asked for one, they want to KILL YOU.
Seriously, try it.
Correct a man.
Tell him he’s blowing it.
Start every sentence with, “Don’t do that - do this…”
Or, “You know what you should do…?”
Because men are competitive, what he hears you saying is, “Hey loser, you have no idea what you’re doing. But I do. You need me to enlighten you - so listen up…”
With each of these approaches, notice the sweat collecting on his brow.
Recognize the twitch at his temple.
See his forehead furrow and lips tighten.
Then see him turn around and leave…possibly for good!
I can’t tell you how many times a great woman has sought my services, and lost a man
she really loved over this.
And she has NO IDEA what happened.
She’ll say to me, “I don’t know what his problem is. All I did was tell him how to (FILL-IN-THE-BLANK). I was helping. He should be grateful!”
And I shake my head, sigh, and think, “Aw, another good man ran for the hills to get away from his ego-crushing woman.”
(You can substitute the word “ego” with a sensitive part of the male anatomy, by the way…)
If you ever do this, I suggest you stop immediately.
I also suggest, in the spirit of men being competitive (i.e., needing to feel like they’re “winning” all the time) that you notice when they do something right, or make an effort.
Acknowledge him once in a while.
Thank him for the things he does that you like.
Tell him how much it means to you.
And then notice a whole other man come forward…
See him be more relaxed and happy around you.
Observe him do more of the things you appreciate than usual - more often.
Realize that he’s becoming the man of your dreams… and you’re starting to look exactly like the woman of his. 
And may God and his planets and stars shower you with love!
If every relationship you’ve been in lately is “close, but not quite” and you can’t even see a glimmer of your soulmate in your future, you may be in a special astrological cycle in your life called a “cycle of Saturn.”
This is a time when just about everything in your life is harder than it should be: love, money, career, health, and friendships.
All of us, at one time or another in our lives, struggle with tough stuff - we don’t feel loved, fulfilled or particularly fit and healthy.
We have bad days, bad weeks, and sometimes even bad months where nothing we do seems to go right and we feel unattractive and unloved.
But if you’re feeling like your life has been “one thing after another” for much longer than just a week or two when it comes to heartbreak, loneliness, health issues or career struggles, keep reading…
Because I’m about to reveal how you can tell if what you’re experiencing is temporary or LONG-LASTING, or if it’s something else altogether.
You see, the difficult periods of life - when we feel unloved, unhealthy and just plain UNLUCKY - can be predicted with astrology.
These are periods in which no matter how hard we try to attain our goals, everything just takes longer, more effort or just plain doesn’t work out.
It’s when you’ve done just about EVERYTHING you can think of to find your soulmate and somehow all your efforts fall short.
For example, you try internet dating and the only guys who pursue you are total duds you wouldn’t want within 5 feet of you, and the ones you like never call again after one or two dates.
You try joining clubs and being more social and saying “yes” to every invitation that you get and still, the only attractive men you meet are already married or unavailable.
You fall for a man but he’s all wrong. He’s got so many “issues” he can open up a newsstand, or maybe he’s involved with someone or still hung up on a former girlfriend or ex-wife…
Or he’s just not the man you thought he was when you first met him.
Nothing is working. Months or even years go by and you’re still single and feeling hopeless and unlovable.
You wonder to yourself, “Will he EVER come? Will I always be alone? What’s WRONG with me?”
Well, I’m here to tell you that nothing is wrong with you!
What you’re experiencing can be seen in the stars.
I’m guessing that what you’re experiencing is a particularly difficult cycle of Saturn.
And the reason I know this is because the majority of women who seek my astrology services feel JUST as you do - and when they’re feeling hopeless are in face in some version of this astrological period.
This cycle of Saturn is a phase that lasts a full seven-and-a-half years and can strike a person at any age.
(Yikes - kind of sounds like some parasite or disease or something!)
All of us go through these cycles at one time or another.
For some people, this can happen all at once. For others, they’ll be in one version of this and then have a break of a few years.
Only to feel like their “bad luck” comes back later…
If you were sitting here in front of me right now and we were having a conversation about this, I’d be able to tell you’re in a cycle of Saturn just by the things you’d say to me:
- That you haven’t felt like “yourself” in a while.
- That everything feels “hard” and you’re drained by a heaviness, a loneliness, or a hopelessness that crashes the party every time you start to think things are getting better.
- That you’ve tried this and that and nothing has worked out, no matter how enthusiastic and motivated you felt at first.
When you’re in a cycle of Saturn, you may feel like you need to TRY HARDER at whatever it is you’re trying to do, like being extra sweet and accommodating to a man so he’ll somehow “realize”that you’re The One…
Or going on 50 dates in 50 days, or yo-yo dieting to lose those last 20 pounds so you can feel good about yourself…
You may feel like you’ve been slacking or that you’re a failure.
You’re not - you’re just in the MEANTIME.
Cycles of Saturn can feel like that - MEAN.
But they’re VERY IMPORTANT because it’s in these GAPS in your life that your figure out the next big chapter of your life…
These are the times when people GROW the most, and evaluate who they are and what they REALLY want (not what you THOUGHT you wanted), only to come OUT of these times so much stronger and more fully who you’re truly SUPPOSED to be.
Seriously - you’ll look back on these times and be SO GLAD…
This is when women say to me - “Thank GOD I got out of that bad marriage… Thank goodness my job got so hard that I was forced to do some- thing else, because now I’m really living my purpose… If it weren’t for those bad years, I’d never be so strong and grateful for what I have today…”
So I promise you - if you’re in a cycle of Saturn it’s not your fault and you’re not a failure and it’s not because you haven’t been trying hard enough.
Because when you’re in this difficult cycle, it just simply won’t be your TIME to find your soulmate or get that DREAM job.
Since it’s not your time (YET!), it also means that it’s nothing you’re doing or not doing that’s to blame for your pain and setbacks.
However, there are things you can do to feel better and make the most of it.
Just knowing what’s going on will make you feel SO much better…
And once you know how the stars are affecting your life, you can make the choice to do certain things that will make this difficult period fareasier.
You can do things to make this time a gift, not a curse.
This may mean going back to school, reexamining your role in a relationship that’s no longer serving you, or just focusing more on yourself and your deeper goals.
And may God and his planets and stars shower you with love!
You know - do you chase men, try to convince them to be with you, give to you, spend time with you, be affectionate, be available (even when they’re TOTALLY NOT), and basically accept CRUMBS?
If so, don’t be ashamed. I talk to women working too hard for love every single day…
If this is you, you’re not alone. But YOU’VE GOT TO STOP. It won’t get you what you want (it hasn’t yet, right?) and is guaranteed to do the very opposite of what you want…
Because crazy as it sounds, when you work too hard to be loved it actually pushes men away, and guarantees they won’t give you what you want, keeping you single and sad indefinitely.
Possibly forever…
But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can turn it all around, and have great men chasing and trying to convince you to be with them! You just have to know how…
Today I talked to a client of mine named Susan.
Susan has a story you may relate to.
She’s been seeing a guy named Tom.
Tom went through a bad divorce a couple of years ago and is hesitant to get too serious - ever again.
He told her that when they met – that he didn’t want anything too serious, and
that he DEFINITELY didn’t want to get married again.
But Susan REALLY liked Tom right away.
So she thought, “I’ll be patient, and play it cool, and we’ll just have fun and
see what happens…”
So what happened?
Fast forward a year and Susan is having a hard time.
Why?
Because she’s MADLY in love with Tom.
They get along GREAT.
They laugh at all the same things.
The sex is the best of her life – and his.
They can talk and talk and talk and talk…
They see each other a few times a week.
They talk every day.
So what’s the problem, you ask?
Tom is STILL saying what he said when they met.
He doesn’t want anything serious.
He won’t meet her kids.
He won’t spend holidays together.
He won’t go away on vacations.
He won’t take her to his work events.
What’s worse, though, is he won’t stop seeing other women…
That’s right - despite them getting along like “two peas in a pod,” Tom doesn’t want to answer to Susan.
He wants to be able to spend time with other women, and come and go as he pleases.
So that “playing it cool” and “being patient” thing isn’t going so good for Susan.
In fact, she’s IN HELL.
And she doesn’t know what to do.
The pat answer you may be thinking is, “Well, DUH. Susan needs to wake up and smell the coffee and DUMP THE CHUMP.”
And that may be true.
But when I work with the Susans of the world I want to REALLY help them. And
telling her to get rid of Tom is only PART of the help she needs.
She also needs to understand the whole picture of her life, and so I looked at her astrology chart to understand WHY she’d be in something like this in the first place.
If Susan just GETS RID of Tom without learning the lesson she needs to know about why she was in this, and how to not do this again, then she’ll likely just find another Tom and DO THIS AGAIN.
How do I know?
Because I’ve seen it over and over.
Susan was married for a long time to a man just like Tom…
He didn’t want to REALLY commit to her, either.
And what did she do with him?
She was patient… she was loving… she tried to CONVINCE him she was lovable, and that their relationship was worth it.
And years and years passed, and she never got his full focus.
She worked too hard in that relationship too!
And in the one before that… and the one before that…
One of my favorite sayings as an astrologer is, “The best predictor of the future is THE
PAST.”
And not just your love life past – your very early past - as in, your family past….
What do I mean by that?
Susan’s FIRST LOVE wasn’t there for her, either.
Her VERY first love - DAD.
He came and went - was hot and cold… was working and absent, and then home and shut down.
Sometimes he was affectionate.
Sometimes he wasn’t.
She learned to tap dance really fast for Daddy…
And try to get him to love her…
And she’s been picking men just like him ever since.
And, amazingly, it’s all in her chart.
Believe it or not, astrology and psychology go hand in hand. (Some of my most loyal, long- time clients are therapists because of this…)
And it can be seen in your stars if you got the love and support in your early child-hood that you needed or not.
And it can even be seen what your relationships were like with each of your parents –mom and dad…
(Because it’s not always “daddy issues” that make women work too hard for love – sometimes it’s because of “mommy issues,” too.)
My favorite thing about being able to see this for someone, is to be able to say to
them, “This wasn’t your fault… Your dad/mom wouldn’t have loved you more if you’d gotten straight A’s or kept your room clean… this was part of your DESTINY and couldn’t have been changed, and is just the deal…”
And they’re so relieved.
Women that didn’t get what they needed from mom and dad fall into one of the “five astrological archetypes of single women”…
They have certain observable, predictable patterns in their stars that cause them to
work WAY too hard in relationships over and over.
Because that’s what feels NORMAL to them. It’s all they’ve ever known.
So, you may now be thinking, “Well, crap, are the Susans of the world just DOOMED to repeat this over and over? What can she do?”
That’s a great question - and I have a great answer.
No, the Susans of the world are NOT doomed to repeat this over and over.
Knowledge is power!
But if they don’t get the knowledge they need and become CONSCIOUS of it all, and find the right solutions to shift out of it, they may be…
They MUST become aware of this part of THEMSELVES that makes them DRAWN to the very men they can’t have.
And then they must know HOW to shift it, and how to stop working so hard.
Because here’s the REAL DEAL you must know about this.
When you accept LESS than the treatment you want from a man, he’ll know it.
And no matter how sweet and loving you are about it, he actually WON’T like that you’re accepting his crumbs.
Now, the selfish part of him will like it just fine.
But the PRIMAL part of him will think, “Yuck. She’s putting MY FEELINGS ahead of her own. And that means she’s a door mat. And that means she doesn’t like herself very much. And that’s REALLY unattractive. If SHE doesn’t like her, why would I like her?”
He wouldn’t…
And so the MORE you compromise what you want for him, the LESS he’ll want you.
I promise you, it’s THAT simple.
(Why didn’t anyone teach us THAT ONE in high school???)
So, what can you do?
One of THE MOST important things a woman needs to learn to do.
FIND OUT what a man wants - EARLY ON. Like before you’ve handed him your heart and soul… (and your best lingerie as it’s flying off your body… :))
And MAKE SURE it matches what you want.
And if it doesn’t, then put what you want FIRST in your priorities, and MOVE ON.
No matter how good you feel with that man, and how compatible you may be.
Susan and Tom would have been fine together if she also was just looking for something casual.
But she wasn’t.
She was looking for a husband… or at least a serious boyfriend to be part of her children’s lives, and spend holidays with, and go on vacations with… and be monogamous with…
As SOON as he said he didn’t want anything serious, she should have believed him, and
said, “Well, it seems we’re looking for different things. I’m looking for a full relationship. If you ever decide you’re up for that - let me know. Otherwise, be well and good luck to you.”
And then she should have STOPPED SEEING HIM.
Now, he didn’t need to know right away that he wanted a serious relationship with HER.
But he should have been open to the idea and then figured out if he wanted one with
her or not fairly quickly. (Like within six months…)
I’ve seen women like Susan give relationships like this YEARS and YEARS and YEARS… and they NEVER end up with what they want.
I’ve seen it be truly tragic - they wait out their fertility, and their best years to find someone else.
And it DOESN”T have to be this way.
(Can you tell this makes ME as crazy as it does my clients???)
Don’t work so hard for love.
As soon as you find that you’re not getting what you need, that you’re not “on the same page” as a man, that you’re waiting and waiting for him to want what you want - you’re with the wrong man.
And I really don’t care how much you love him or how great he is - or how great you are together.
Leave.
He may then realize he wants YOU more than the thing he said he wanted.
And then he may be back.
That happens all the time, too.
But only take him back if he ACTUALLY gives you what you said you wanted.
And DO NOT take him back if he says, “I’m open to it - some day… Let’s see how it goes…”
That’s a bunch of HOG WASH.
That’s code for, “Can I get her back and STILL not do what she’s asking for? I think I can get away with this, because she’s been so weak before…”
And you’ll still wait years for him to NEVER come around.
And you’ll still have put what he wants first.
(You AND his unacceptable terms… You know, his cake and the chance to EAT IT, TOO, while you get no goodies…)
Here’s the good news:
It’s a big world full of great men who will want what you want - and will work hard
for it!
Most women do exactly the opposite of what works with men - bringing to him all of their disappointment, criticism, and unhappiness…
Which just makes a man feel bad around you and uninspired, and likely to give even LESS.
Find out if the man you’re with can be a better man - by leading the way to a better love, as well as a bunch of cool other stuff, (like his planetary personality type, if he’s astrologically afflicted and what that means, his level of maturity, if he’s astrologically masculine or feminine and how to best relate to him depending on which, and more…).
And, as ever, may God and his planets and stars shower you with EASY love!
By gender I don’t mean who is the boy and who is the girl. I mean, who ACTS like the boy and who ACTS like the girl.
I talked to a woman today going through something soooo painful.
She’s been seeing a new man for just a few months.
Everything was going blissfully well.
He was calling all the time, taking her to amazing places, and showering her with
attention.
They laughed easily, agreed on almost everything, and shared incredible chemistry.
He has EVERYTING she’s been wanting in a man - ambitious, warm, attractive, with a
great job and a bright future…
She was just sure this was THE GUY.
HER GUY…
They were falling in love.
But then - something TERRIBLE happened.
Two of his closest friends BOTH told him they don’t like her, and they don’t understand why he’s with her.
YIKES.
And, instead of telling them to BUZZ OFF, and reassuring her that he’s HIS OWN MAN, he’s become withdrawn, unavailable, and shut down.
DOUBLE YIKES.
So what did she do?
What ANY woman would have done.
She’s become anxious, insecure, and upset.
She’s just sure he’s going to break up with her, and she doesn’t know how to win his love back.
So she called me.
And here’s what I think.
I think they’re actually having a conflict of GENDER.
Here’s why.
All of us have a masculine side, and a feminine side.
As women, we have tons of feminine hormones that make us more sensitive, intuitive, and emotional.
But often, men have lots of these qualities as well.
Men have tons of masculine hormones that make them proactive, assertive, and competitive.
But often, women display lots of these behaviors, too.
Here’s where it has to do with astrology…
Amazingly, although you can tell almost everything about a person from their astrology chart - the one thing you cannot know is their gender.
Isn’t that interesting?
Two people born at the same time in the same location will have essentially the same chart.
But you cannot tell from their charts if they are two girls, two boys, or a boy and a
girl.
(Or two hermaphrodites - hey, it could happen…
So - although you cannot tell who’s PHYSICALLY male or female, you can see if
a person is more EMOTIONALLY one or the other.
You see, all of the signs of the zodiac are either male or female.
The masculine signs make a person proactive, positive, and inclined to initiate things and “stay the course.”
Feminine signs, on the other hand – are the opposite.
They make a person more passive, feeling- oriented, and inclined to respond TO things that happen, as opposed to MAKING THEM HAPPEN.
You can tell if a person is more masculine or feminine especially by how they respond
in a crisis.
If they tend to RETREAT and get stuck in their emotions, and do nothing to fix the
situation at hand - they are feminine.
If, on the other hand, they leap to action and “take care of business,” fixing the problem
without becoming overly emotional - they’re masculine.
If they need to be comforted and attended to - they’re feminine.
If they want to take care of and reassure others - they’re masculine.
So here’s where it has to do with the couple in the story above.
When I heard my client’s sad tale of woe today, I told her they were both wanting to be
the FEMININE partner.
She was wanting him to comfort her and take care of her feelings, and stand up to the people in his life - but he was wanting to retreat into his mixed emotions about it all and pretend it never happened.
When she would try to talk about things, he would cut her off, unable to deal with
her feelings.
Everything he did (and didn’t do) told me that he was being emotionally feminine.
So, where does that leave her?
When a man is being emotionally feminine, a woman has a couple of choices.
She can try to be “the better woman” by talking to him about her FEELINGS and asking for him to take a specific action (in this case, reassure her and recommit to the
relationship).
Or, seeing that he’s collapsed into his feminine side, she can become “the better man” and offer him support, and try to solve whatever is wrong.
She can say, “Wow - I’m so sorry your friends feel that way. You must be so uncomfortable now. What a terrible position you are in. Please let me know what I can do to help.”
She can rise above her feelings, and make sure his feelings COME FIRST.
You see, the feminine person’s feelings MUST come first.
Once they get their feelings taken care of then they take care of the masuline person’s feelings, too.
But typically, not before…
This is such a HUGELY important topic that it comes up in all kinds of ways.
I talked to another client that was going through something yesterday.
She’s been living with a guy going through a terrible divorce.
He has a son that has a great deal of emotional problems, and she kept asking that he get his child counseling.
He would agree, but then do nothing.
He didn’t separate his finances from his wife’s - leaving his name on her bank account,
only to have her go into tremendous debt and overdraw that account by many thousands of dollars that he’s now responsible for.
She would ask him to take care of these issues and he’d agree - but then do nothing.
The other day he informed her he was moving out - without giving her any warning
or involving her in the decision.
All of this was him being PASSIVE.
She was always trying to get him to TAKE ACTION.
It’s easy for her, but hard for him.
So, in the end she felt unsafe and unloved.
He simply wasn’t man enough for her…
As I said, this can all be seen in the stars.
It can be difficult to tell.
But the most important thing is the sign the Moon was in when you were born, because
the Moon reflects your emotions, and how you RELATE.
As I said, each of the signs is either masculine or feminine.
But it gets more specific than that.
You see, there are twenty-seven sub-signs within the signs, called “nakshatras” or
constellations.
It’s these signs I’m referring to when I say, “the TRUE love zodiac…”
The most important thing to consider in relationships is the constellation of your
Moon sign.
And each constellation has a gender.
Not only that - each constellation has an INSTINCTIVE NATURE that reflects how you respond to a crisis.
It’s indicated by an animal symbol.
And each animal symbol is either masculine or feminine, as well.
So, your sign, constellation, and animal symbol each have a gender…
So - you can have you Moon in a masculine sign, but a feminine constellation, that has
a MALE animal symbol.
(And, because your animal symbol reflects your instinctive nature, this has a great
deal to do with your sex life, too…)
What does that mean?
It means, when you come down to it, in a crisis you will respond from the gender of
your animal symbol.
And there’s a little compatibility rule in Vedic astrology.
You and a man are happiest if ONE of you is masculine, and one of you is feminine.
If you’re BOTH masculine you’ll have power struggles and fight over “who’s on top.”
If you’re both feminine, you’ll tend to not have enough energy between you, and could
become stagnant as a couple over time, both emotionally and sexually.
(Uh oh…)
When your chart is more male than a man’s you MUST make his feelings come first.
When it’s more feminine, you can have more of a traditional relationship, and have him
attend to your feelings first.
And it’s SO helpful to know.
Because, truthfully, if your nature is male, you’ll be happiest with a man whose nature is female.
You just have to know how to handle it…
In the case of my client, lots of coaches might have told her that he was being selfish,
unsupportive, and immature.
And while that may be true, I was able to see that her chart is more male than his.
So, if she approaches things from her male side, offering him reassurance and validating his feelings above her own, it will make him feel good with her again.
And then his better qualities will come back, and he’ll find the strength to be fully in the relationship once more.
But if she keeps wanting him to FIX the problem for her, and make her feelings come
first it will likely be a long, cold wait, and she just might lose him.
Get it?
If you notice you always attract more nurturing men who are sensitive, creative, and sweet, but who aren’t “going for the gusto” in their lives, so you have a hard time respecting them, it could be because you’re emotionally male so attract men who are not.
Or, if you always attract ALPHA males but then just have constant power struggles
and ego battles with them - it could be because you’re emotionally male as well, but so are they.
On the other hand, if you easily lose yourself in relationships, but aren’t happy
without one - you are probably emotionally feminine.
And may God and HER planets and stars shower you with love!
]]>While it’s true that we’re not all “dealt the same hand” in life, YOU have to participate with your fate to make your dreams of love come true - no matter what your stars say!
It’s NOT enough to have the blessing of the heavenly bodies smiling on your love life.
You have to actually DO the right things, and treat men the right way to end up living “happily ever after…”
As someone who talks to women every day about the topic of love, there’s something I can’t help but notice…
Single women tell me the same thing over and over.
They say that FINDING the right man is the MOST important thing to them.
They claim to want this more than ANYTHING else in life…
More than money, more than fame, even more than children.
And yet, when I ask what they’re doing about it - they almost don’t understand the question.
Doing?
Why should they have to “DO” anything?
Isn’t love supposed to just HAPPEN?
Won’t the heavens just part, and the signs all be clear, and the stars all align, and the right man suddenly APPEAR?
Ah, if only it were that easy…
Now, sometimes for SOME women it does happen that way.
Heck, I’ve read stories of women not even leaving the house - and their husband just happened to knock on their door.
He was their gardener, their architect, their pool guy, a door-to-door salesman…
They made NO effort, and it all “worked out” - just like in a fairy tale.
But guess what?
That happens to a VERY SMALL percentage of women!
And so if you’re single, I’m going to suggest you do something different than that…
I’m going to recommend that you UP your odds of getting what you want MOST in life.
And that you actually treat the thing you SAY is your top priority as if it is!
(Heck, at least act like it’s in the top ten…)
Now, this isn’t just my opinion.
I know of MANY other professionals who work with singles that say the same thing.
Seriously - I’ve met many matchmakers, relationship coaches, and therapists who are also amazed and how PASSIVE their single clients are.
Now, I know what you’re thinking…
“But Carol, you write about timing and ’seasons of love’ - don’t you have to be in
one of those to find love, and when you are, doesn’t love come even if you don’t do anything?”
That’s a great question - thanks for asking!
The answer is YES… and NO.
Let me tell you a story.
One of my very BEST friends in the world is single.
And she’s a TOTAL catch - pretty, funny, responsible, sexy, LOVES men, tons of fun, gainfully employed, great with kids and pets, a good little dancer - I could go on and on…
She swears she’s been DYING to get married for YEARS.
But she barely dates, barely goes out, lives in a part of town that isn’t very”family oriented…”
And so - YEARS and YEARS have passed since her last big relationship.
And she CLAIMS this is her greatest desire in life.
Well, I read her chart one day and saw something that made us BOTH very excited.
She was about to hit a “season of love”in which she could meet HIM. It would last
for a year, and she could meet him anywhere in the time frame…
So I begged her to TRY SOMETHING to up her chances. So she started internet dating.
And pretty much right away she met a great guy.
And they started seeing each other – and they got “hot and heavy” and became exclusive.
He was a doll and CRAZY about her.
There was just one little problem…
She wasn’t crazy about him.
And she knew RIGHT AWAY that he wasn’t ever going to be THE ONE.
But she continued to see him, and took her profile off the internet dating site, stopped meeting other men, and didn’t get out of her “kind of” relationship with Mr. Wrong for ALMOST A YEAR.
(Did you catch that? She spent her whole “window of opportunity” with someone that she knew WASN’T HIM… sigh…)
And so then what happened?
Nothing.
Nada.
Zip.
She didn’t meet anyone else.
And it’s been four years and she’s still single.
So, what about her “season of love?”
It’s what I said before.
She didn’t participate with her fate.
She SAT OUT her “season of love” with THE WRONG GUY.
She may as well have not dated at all.
Now, you could argue that she was getting love, and that’s true.
It was a season of SOME LOVE.
But it didn’t turn out to be her season of TRUE LOVE.
And, I hate to say it, but I think it could have had she COMMITED to her vision, and made more effort to meet more men.
My friend was confused and disappointed. We had to have some awkward conversations. (I have a weird job, let me tell ya…)
Why hadn’t it all magically “worked out?” Had I been wrong? Had her chart lied? Had I
misled her?
No.
She had used her FREE WILL and it became her FREE WON’T.
She had the option to stay in the WRONG thing despite it being the RIGHT time, and she took it.
And she paid the price…
(The good news is that she has more seasons ahead - there’s usually not just one… whew!)
So do yourself a favor - don’t be like my friend.
If you want the right guy and you want a FULL relationship, then only become serious and exclusive with someone you think is HIM.
Don’t think, “I’m so young. I have tons of time…”
Because time has a way of flying and years have a way of passing… and it can be very hard to get out of these “close but not quite” relationships.
You need to know what you want, and then you need to become a woman on a LOVE MISSION.
Now, timing IS very important.
And when you’re in CRAPPY love timing, you can’t use your own self-effort to get what you want…
And you can just practically KILL YOURSELF trying.
So sometimes it’s totally fine to date “Mr. Close But Not Quite” or to sit out the “game of love” entirely…
There are astrological cycles that BLOCK LOVE, and support you essentially MARRYING YOURSELF.
And they can be the most powerful, growth- inducing times of your life.
But they can also be extremely discouraging when you don’t know what’s going on.
And, as ever, may God and his planets and stars - and your own RIGHT ACTIONS - shower you with love!
What woman hasn’t, right?
Dating can be soooooo confusing.
You can meet someone who SEEMS really great.
He tells good stories.
He listens well.
He pays attention to you.
You laugh at the same jokes, want to see the same movies, and agree on politics…
But once you get to know him, and time passes, you start to realize that even though he’s a good guy, he’s not YOUR guy after all.
And it’s such a bummer, because by the time you figure that out, you’ve spent weeks (or YEARS) only to discover that you can’t be happy together.
But now you’re attached, and feeling so disappointed, and wishing you hadn’t wasted all that time…
Gulp.
Or perhaps the opposite has happened - you’ve been seeing a guy who you thought adored you. He seemed to understand you, and be so excited about you, only to ultimately decide that YOU weren’t the girl for HIM.
OUCH.
Wouldn’t it have been nice if you could’ve figured all of that out sooner?
I was a professional astrologer for seven years before I got married, and I had a lot of fun…
You see, I could meet a man and simply ask him his birthday, and RUN home and know right away if he’d be worth my time…
I could easily tell if we’d like each other, and if we’d have any hope of a future - or if no matter what I did, things wouldn’t work out.
Not only that, if it DID look like he was going to be good to spend time with, I’d know JUST how to talk to him, what he’d be like emotionally, what he’d be passionate about, and more.
So I’d already be able to “speak his language” and connect with him in a way that would help our connection grow quickly.
It was like having a secret weapon…
And I gotta tell ya - it took a LOT of the painful “blame and shame” out of the dating process for me.
I could see INSTANTLY how to understand a man, and if we’d be compatible or not, so that I could appreciate him for who he was (and not who I WISHED he was), and set my expectations.
I could choose to go for it or pass, knowing ahead of time if it would be “just for fun” or if he’d be someone I could take seriously…
Now, some people might say this is like knowing the end of a movie at the beginning, but I say it’s like knowing if you’re going to see a romantic comedy, or a horror film…
It was soooo helpful.
Seriously - think of all the heartache and confusion this could save you…
My closest single friends call on me to do this for them constantly.
They’ve learned to find out a man’s birthday by the end of the first date (or sooner!), so I can give them this powerful, peace of mind inducing insight, too.
They tell me all the time how grateful they are to have me and this amazing knowledge to turn to, and how - just as I discovered - it NEVER fails…
(Believe me, I TRIED to go against it - only to learn the hard way…)
Lots of women think they can know this by learning about the twelve signs of the zodiac.
They think they can study all about how the signs go together, and find out a man’s sign, and have all the answers just from that.
But here’s the thing - if you’ve been reading these newsletters, then you know that doesn’t work.
The Sun sign of a man isn’t the thing that matters in relationships.
It’s his Moon sign that matters - but not just which of the twelve signs it’s in - something MUCH MORE CRITICAL, that most people have never heard of…
Not even most professional astrologers.
The key to understanding a man’s - and your own - emotional nature is to discover which of twenty-seven Moon sub-signs, or constellations he was born under.
These twenty-seven sub-signs hold the key to revealing relationship success.
They’re so important, and so powerful, that the most accurate compatibility techniques in all of astrology look to only these…
And they’re only known in Vedic astrology - the system of ancient India.
In India, when they say, “Hey baby, what’s your sign?” this is what they want to know.
But, as I said, most people have never heard of them.
In “Signs Of Compatibility,” here’s just a sample of what you’ll learn to read about anyone:
If his emotional process is fast or slow.
If he’s romantic or practical.
If he’s a leader or follower.
If he’s stubborn or flexible.
If he’s easygoing or harsh.
If he’s loyal or fickle.
If he’s a late-bloomer in love. (It’s better to meet and marry these guys when they’re over thirty…)
If he’s positive or negative.
If he’s a thinker or a feeler.
And, in terms of your compatibility, here’s what you can discover about your relationship, or POTENTIAL relationship with him:
If you’ll feel happiness and comfort together.
If you’ll be magnetically attracted to each other, feeling a special “wow” that can last for life (Brad and Angie have this one…).
If you’ll feel bonded to one another, and have enough connection to “go the distance.”
If you’ll be able to be fully yourselves, and easily understand each other’s tastes, sense of humor, and point of view - or if you’ll offend, embarrass, or overwhelm each other all the time.
If the circumstances of your lives will support you being together, or if you’ll have constant obstacles in the way - other relationships, financial difficulties, geographicdistance, professional conflicts, etc.
If you’ll experience smooth progress and ease as a couple, or if you’ll run into constant misfortunes that get in the way of your relationship, making you feel you’re on an emotional roller coaster you can’t get off.
If you’ll feel confident with him, or if he’ll only make you an insecure mess…
What would it be worth to you, to be able to have this kind of information about all of your relationships?
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