If you secretly believe that romantic success is all about luck or “karma” and think that women with fantastic men are just “luckier” or more “blessed” than you are, I have some bad news for you…

While it’s true that we’re not all “dealt the same hand” in life, YOU have to participate with your fate to make your dreams of love come true - no matter what your stars say!

It’s NOT enough to have the blessing of the heavenly bodies smiling on your love life.

You have to actually DO the right things, and treat men the right way to end up living “happily ever after…”

As someone who talks to women every day about the topic of love, there’s something I can’t help but notice…

Single women tell me the same thing over and over.

They say that FINDING the right man is the MOST important thing to them.

They claim to want this more than ANYTHING else in life…

More than money, more than fame, even more than children.

And yet, when I ask what they’re doing about it - they almost don’t understand the question.

Doing?

Why should they have to “DO” anything?

Isn’t love supposed to just HAPPEN?

Won’t the heavens just part, and the signs all be clear, and the stars all align, and the right man suddenly APPEAR?

Ah, if only it were that easy…

Now, sometimes for SOME women it does happen that way.

Heck, I’ve read stories of women not even leaving the house - and their husband just happened to knock on their door.

He was their gardener, their architect, their pool guy, a door-to-door salesman…

They made NO effort, and it all “worked out” - just like in a fairy tale.

But guess what?

That happens to a VERY SMALL percentage of women!

And so if you’re single, I’m going to suggest you do something different than that…

I’m going to recommend that you UP your odds of getting what you want MOST in life.

And that you actually treat the thing you SAY is your top priority as if it is!

(Heck, at least act like it’s in the top ten…)

Now, this isn’t just my opinion.

I know of MANY other professionals who work with singles that say the same thing.

Seriously - I’ve met many matchmakers, relationship coaches, and therapists who are also amazed and how PASSIVE their single clients are.

Now, I know what you’re thinking…

“But Carol, you write about timing and ’seasons of love’ - don’t you have to be in
one of those to find love, and when you are, doesn’t love come even if you don’t do anything?”

That’s a great question - thanks for asking!

The answer is YES… and NO.

Let me tell you a story.

One of my very BEST friends in the world is single.

And she’s a TOTAL catch - pretty, funny, responsible, sexy, LOVES men, tons of fun, gainfully employed, great with kids and pets, a good little dancer - I could go on and on…

She swears she’s been DYING to get married for YEARS.

But she barely dates, barely goes out, lives in a part of town that isn’t very”family oriented…”

And so - YEARS and YEARS have passed since her last big relationship.

And she CLAIMS this is her greatest desire in life.

Well, I read her chart one day and saw something that made us BOTH very excited.

She was about to hit a “season of love”in which she could meet HIM. It would last
for a year, and she could meet him anywhere in the time frame…

So I begged her to TRY SOMETHING to up her chances. So she started internet dating.

And pretty much right away she met a great guy.

And they started seeing each other – and they got “hot and heavy” and became exclusive.

He was a doll and CRAZY about her.

There was just one little problem…

She wasn’t crazy about him.

And she knew RIGHT AWAY that he wasn’t ever going to be THE ONE.

But she continued to see him, and took her profile off the internet dating site, stopped meeting other men, and didn’t get out of her “kind of” relationship with Mr. Wrong for ALMOST A YEAR.

(Did you catch that? She spent her whole “window of opportunity” with someone that she knew WASN’T HIM… sigh…)

And so then what happened?

Nothing.

Nada.

Zip.

She didn’t meet anyone else.

And it’s been four years and she’s still single.

So, what about her “season of love?”

It’s what I said before.

She didn’t participate with her fate.

She SAT OUT her “season of love” with THE WRONG GUY.

She may as well have not dated at all.

Now, you could argue that she was getting love, and that’s true.

It was a season of SOME LOVE.

But it didn’t turn out to be her season of TRUE LOVE.

And, I hate to say it, but I think it could have had she COMMITED to her vision, and made more effort to meet more men.

My friend was confused and disappointed. We had to have some awkward conversations. (I have a weird job, let me tell ya…)

Why hadn’t it all magically “worked out?” Had I been wrong? Had her chart lied? Had I
misled her?

No.

She had used her FREE WILL and it became her FREE WON’T.

She had the option to stay in the WRONG thing despite it being the RIGHT time, and she took it.

And she paid the price…

(The good news is that she has more seasons ahead - there’s usually not just one… whew!)

So do yourself a favor - don’t be like my friend.

If you want the right guy and you want a FULL relationship, then only become serious and exclusive with someone you think is HIM.

Don’t think, “I’m so young. I have tons of time…”

Because time has a way of flying and years have a way of passing… and it can be very hard to get out of these “close but not quite” relationships.

You need to know what you want, and then you need to become a woman on a LOVE MISSION.

Now, timing IS very important.

And when you’re in CRAPPY love timing, you can’t use your own self-effort to get what you want…

And you can just practically KILL YOURSELF trying.

So sometimes it’s totally fine to date “Mr. Close But Not Quite” or to sit out the “game of love” entirely…

There are astrological cycles that BLOCK LOVE, and support you essentially MARRYING YOURSELF.

And they can be the most powerful, growth- inducing times of your life.

But they can also be extremely discouraging when you don’t know what’s going on.

And, as ever, may God and his planets and stars - and your own RIGHT ACTIONS - shower you with love!